How to Change Your Routine to Get What You Want in English and in Your Life

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Today you-ll find out why staying in the same place will never get you to where you want to go and how to make an effective change quickly and easily.
Here it today-s quote:
-To get something you never had you have to do something you never did.-
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-If you do what you-ve always done, you-ll get what you-ve always gotten.-
-Tony Robbins
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It-s so easy to get into a habit but we have to step back and ask ourselves if our habits are creating the results that we want.
Time goes by fast.
We often realize that we have been doing the same thing for years and we haven-t achieved our goals.
Here are some examples of our goals:

Michelle-s new goal: She wants to build upper body strength. How is she working towards the goal? She is using resistance bands at her home a few times every week.

Lindsay-s new goal: She wants to deepen her meditation practice. She has started going to her meditation center every morning.

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What about you?
What are you going to change after listening to today-s episode?
What change do you want to create in your life?
Tell us in the comments below
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How to Know If You Have Chemistry with Someone

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Today we have our dating consultant, Jessica Coyle, back on the show!
Today Jessica is back to talk about the concept of chemistry in dating in urban US culture.
Jessica is going to tell us how to know if we actually have chemistry with someone.
Chemistry: A magnetic pull between two people where you seem to understand the other person and something is different about that person to you.
-Two different types of chemistry:

Slow burn chemistry: You start out as friends and then chemistry and attraction gradually builds over time. Features of the other person that seemed strange or unattractive initially start to become endearing and attractive.

Quick chemistry/limerance: This is more of an infatuation. Jessica thinks that online dating and set ups reward this type of attraction. These connections can be really intense at first and then can fizzle out and not end well. At the same time, sometimes these attractions can work in the long run.

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What about in your culture?
What are your deal breakers when it comes to dating?
In your culture, how much influence do your parents and family have when it comes to your choice of a partner?
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Here are some dating vocabulary words that we talked about today:

Limerance

Lukewarm feelings

Slow burn chemistry

Quirks (personality and physical)

Deal breakers

Red Flag

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Jessica Coyle has been teaching English since 2007.
She received her Master-s in TESOL in 2013, finishing with a professional project researching the use of improvisational comedy teaching techniques to teach English as a second language.
She has studied and performed improv comedy all over Korea, China, Canada and the United States.
How to find Jessica Online:
Her dating blog: https://hopefuldisasters.wordpress.com/
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Let us know your thoughts on this topic.
What are your deal breakers?
How important is chemistry when it comes to dating in your home culture?
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Why Just Speaking May NOT Be the Best Route to Fluency in English

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Today we have a special guest on the show!
Our guest will challenge your assumption that SPEAKING is the most important part of learning English.
Julian sees learning languages as a simple, two-step process:
Step 1: Learn the language that we need for our specific situation
Step 1: Apply the language and use it
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Julian-s 3 Tips- How to Keep it Practical:
Try to do many different kinds of things in the language: English is a process. Spend time with it. You can-t HAVE it. You can-t GET it. You need to constantly maintain it.-Julian says that there is no difference between -experiencing- the language and -learning- the language, as far as your brain is concerned. By experiencing the language in many different ways, we can acquire chunks of English which will help us to sound more native-like. You should try to encounter the language through reading, speaking, listening, writing, etc. Get a more well-rounded experience of the language instead of just focusing on speaking.
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Try to get a balance between intensive activity and relaxed exposure: Some of your work should be deliberate, focused, practical, intensive study. At the same time, some of your work should be a more relaxed encounter with the language. You need to take it in in a way that is enjoyable and easy. You could try listening to music in the language or watching TV. The key is getting a balance between the two forms of learning.
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Focus on things which are useful to YOU: Exclude things that aren-t useful to you. Don-t bother to learn things that you won-t need to use. According to Julian, we don-t become fluent in English. We become fluent in specific topics such as cooking, law, politics, art, etc. Choose your focus and pursue English in that area. Drop the idea of becoming -fluent- in English in general.
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Julian-s Bio:
Our guest today is an English teacher from England, living in Japan. He is the father of three bilingual children, is halfway through a PhD program in Psycholinguistics and used his insight about language learning to go from speaking poor Japanese in 2008 to being a translator in 2010. Our guest today is Julian from DoingEnglish.com
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What do you think?
Have you focused down on one specific area of English learning?
What area are you focusing on?
Let us know in the comments!
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Why Forgiving Puts You On Top

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Most people think that forgiveness is weakness but today we-ll challenge your perspective with an awesome quote!
Do you have any enemies?
Do you have any -frenemies-?
Here is today-s quote for a Deep Thoughts Thursday: -Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.-
- Oscar Wilde
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What does this quote mean?
This quote is somewhat -cheeky- and it says that if we want to annoy our enemies even more, we can forgive them.
Also, the quote is telling us that it-s better for us to forgive.
It helps us lead healthier lives.
When you have an enemy you carry a lot of negative energy around and it takes up space in your body and in your brain.
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According to Mayoclinic.org, the benefits of forgiveness include:

Stronger immune system

Less anxiety

Lower blood pressure

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A few great vocabulary words from today-s episode:

Frenemy: -Friend- + -enemy-= someone that you care about and you are there for them but you can-t get along with them on an everyday basis and many things about that person bother you.

To hold a grudge: You keep thinking about something that someone did to you, you hold on to your anger. You don-t move on.

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Do you have someone to forgive?
What is holding you back from forgiving that person?
Share your experience in the comments.
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4 Topics that You Should NEVER Discuss in a First English Conversation

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Jessica is the author of Hopeful Disasters where she explores dating in New York City.
She is also an ESL teacher in New York City.
Check out her blog here!
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When you meet someone for the first time in English, whether it-s a date or just a first-time meeting with a friend or colleague, there are certain topics that you should NEVER discuss.
Today you-ll find out what they are with our favorite AEE dating consultant, Jessica Coyle.
A few weeks ago we talked about what four things you SHOULD talk about on a first date in English or at a first meeting but today we-ll show you what you should avoid.
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4 Topics to AVOID on a first date or first meeting in English:

Politics: You can casually mention your political interests but don-t get drawn into a political debate or discussion. Jessica calls this -quicksand- because you can start to sink and you-ll get stuck and you won-t be able to get out of it. It-s better to bring up this topic once you already know someone well and after you know their triggers well.

Age:-You should definitely avoid asking the person their exact age. Also, this means that you should not ask people about their timeline in terms of when they want to get married or have kids. It-s too direct and too intense for a first date or first conversation. You might terrify the person if start asking these questions too early.

Religion: You probably have a rough idea of your date-s religion and it will be important later but it-s too personal to get into during a first date. It-s ok to share your own religion if you want to but don-t ask the person directly what their religion is.

-Education:-This is tricky. Jessica says that the goal in not asking this question is to avoid coming off as arrogant or judgmental. If you ask the person where they went to school or how many degrees they have, it will be clear that you are fishing for information regarding their intelligence or social status. You might make the other person feel bad if you ask this question. Try to figure out if there is an intellectual connection instead.


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Is There a Formula for Originality? Find Out Today!

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What is the difference between being original and imitating?
What will get you further in life?
Today is a Deep Thoughts Thursday so we have a quote:
-It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.-
-Herman Melville
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What does this mean for English learners?
Don-t follow a formula.
Be creative with your words.
Don-t focus too much on being perfect.
Get creative with your tone of voice.
Learn different ways to say different things.
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Check out this episode about the Zone of Genius.
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Where does this quote resonate with you?
Let us know in the comments.
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Never Get to Speak English? How to Solve Your Problem Now

Do you feel like you never get a chance to speak English?
Even when you attend an English class or work with an English tutor do you leave the class feeling like you haven-t spoken at all?
If so, then you are not alone.
A lot of students feels this way.
Today we have a guest, Jason Newnum, who is an American English teacher.
He teaches on the italki platform and he is available for lessons now!
Jason has a special class called -Student Speaks, Teacher Listens.-
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Why did Jason create this class?
Jason created this class because when he took Spanish classes he noticed that he was not getting much speaking practice at all.
He felt discouraged and didn-t get much better.
He realized that the same problem was happening with English students.
Jason wants to solve this problem.
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Why is Jason-s class different?

He makes sure that students talk more, about 80% of the time

He feels comfortable being quiet, he doesn-t get nervous like other teachers do sometimes when they are nervous so he doesn-t fill that space with meaningless chatter

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A typical class with Jason:

He asks you what-s new with you

He gives you a short article or video clip and asks for your opinion

He asks great follow-up questions- directly related to YOU and YOUR experiences

He writes out your mistakes in the Skype chat box so that you have a record of your mistakes

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Jason-s Bio:
Jason Newnum teaches English as a second language, in Bariloche, Argentina, and lives there with his family. Although he received his university degree in Spanish and now lives in a Spanish speaking country, his Argentine wife speaks English and Spanish equally. So it-s difficult to force himself to practice Spanish, when it-s easier to speak English with his wife. So he understands the frustrations of having to force ourselves to practice a foreign language everyday.
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Do you have this problem with your English class?
Are you planning to try Jason-s class?
If so, let us know when you are going to get started with Jason.
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How to Be Pushy Without Being Pushy in English

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Today you-ll get six ways to check on someone-s progress in a non-pushy way in English!
Do you ever want to get the status of someone-s progress on a project or an assignment but do you get confused about how to ask without making the person feel pressured?
Today you-ll find out how to do it successfully in English.
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Ways to check on progress:

-How-s it going? I look forward to receiving the files.-

-Any updates?

- How are things progressing?-

-How are things moving forward?-

-How are things going?-

-Do you need any feedback on anything?-

-Do you want me to check your work?-

Slightly more direct ways to check on progress:

-What-s your timeline?-

-How-s your timeline looking?-

-I just wanted to check in. When do you think you-ll be able to get that done?-

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What other phrases do you use when you want to check on someone-s progress?
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Don't Be a Fool! Learn About April Fool's Day with All Ears English

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April Fool-s Day is coming up later this week.
Are you ready for it?
How do you celebrate April Fool-s Day in your culture?
Today you-ll learn what many Americans do on April Fool-s Day and you-ll get a few new vocabulary words for this day.
It-s common to play jokes on friends and colleagues at work or at college in the United States.
It-s especially common in colleges because students live together with their friends in dormitories.
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Vocabulary for April Fool-s Day:

Gullible: To trust people and believe things that people say, even if those things are not true.

Practical Joke: A joke that you play on someone (not a spoken joke). You act out this kind of joke.

A prank: A practical joke, a joke that is acted out

Gag gift: A silly gift that is not meant to be serious but is meant to be a joke

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What should you do if someone plays a joke on you?
Don-t take it too seriously.
Laugh at it.
Have a good time.
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How do you celebrate April Fool-s Day?
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How to Learn English the Way a Child Learns to Walk

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Today is a Deep Thoughts Thursday and we have an inspiring quote for you!
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Let-s talk about success.
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Here is the quote:
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-Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.-
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-Winston Churchill
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We can apply this quote to a lot of different aspects of our lives like learning English, dating, and our career paths.
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We have to keep going and take on new challenges with a positive attitude even if we have failed many times in the past.
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Try to avoid feeling bitter when you take on a challenge and try again.
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What do you think about this quote?
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Do you keep your heart open and stay enthusiastic when you try again with something?
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Leave us a comment below and let-s discuss it!
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